A Leap Of Faith…Or How An 18 Year Old Virgin Changed His Life

Whenever I took a leap of faith I got
HUGE BENEFITS.

When I was 18 years old I was absolutely
petrified around girls and NEVER took any
action with girls.

I was also a virgin. 

Despite being the youngest DJ ever in the
biggest club where I lived. Despite being
reasonably looking. Despite actually hearing
years late how many older girls were really
interested in me. 

So here are the main events that changed my life:

When i was about 18 I dreamed of becoming an actor
and I wanted to go to a particular drama school…

I took a leap of faith and suspended my disbelief
because I was pretty sure I didn't have a
chance to get in…but despite that I worked my arse
off to get into this school and against all the odds
(3000 applicants for 28 places) I passed the auditions. 

(I'll tell you that story another time)

Drama school was expensive but luckily my parents could afford
to help me with my living expenses and my government
had some sort of foreign studies fund which reimbursed
my fees. All in all about £16000 I think which in hindsight
was incredibly cheap for what I learned.

Some of the amazing techniques that I learned from some
of my great teachers have totally changed my life and
I've adapted them for myself in different ways.

Drama school also taught me that I could have
control or at least influence over how I felt and how I
behaved…and that by thinking differently I could
feel differently ...which laid the groundwork for tackling
my whole situation with women.

Then I got lucky. 

My parents (of all people) gave me a book that
was called "Winning through enlightenment".

An American guy called Ron Smothermon had written
it and I read it first in German because my parents are
German and it's in print in Germany.

Anyway this book clarified so many things I had
personally brooded over and secretly suspected
to be true...

…but you've probably already noticed..until there's
someone else there that confirms stuff to you it's often
hard to actually have the guts to follow your own
insights, right?

So this book took me miles forward in my own journey
to confidence with women and around anyone.

Again it seems to be my parents who need to get credit
for financing it….Good on them!

The more I learned to influence my behaviour and
way of thinking and the more I become confident because
of it the more I started to go further… 

...especially since I had also started getting some really
challenging acting roles which required me to be super
confident and self assured under extremely weird or
stressful circumstances…

And on top of that I started to do soft skills training for
billion dollar companies like Goldman Sachs or JP
Morgan as a consultant…that gave me new insights…

and yes it helped me get more confident with women too..

So what was my next big leap of faith?

I got introduced by a friend to the so called
seduction community and I started learning some
of the stuff that's part of that scene… ok lets be honest…

…in fact I pretty much immersed myself in it and tried
using many of the tactics and ideas…with some success.

I invested in several dating programs. 

Wow…that was another big leap for me to actually
BUY something myself that was an investment in
myself as a person.

so far it had always been my parents who paid for
everything to do with my development, violin lessons,
tennis lessons, drama school and all but this was the
first time I myself invested in my skills and in my
personal growth.

It was a big leap for me and I felt a bit weird but it
totally paid me back 10 fold.

Not necessarily because the programs I bought were
amazing and made me successful… in truth often there
were just a few ideas in there that REALLY helped me…but
even when there was just ONE single idea in a program
that seriously opened my eyes to something i had been
 blind to before…

…. it was worth it.

Despite all of that something was nagging me when I used
some of the stuff I learned…I had success sometimes but
often only short term and with the wrong girls.

I also felt inauthentic and like I was impersonating someone
other than me. But still I had found some very useful new
ways of thinking and approaching things that had helped
me forward.

So I dug deeper…

...and I had to take another leap of faith:

I had learned about NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming)
from one of my psychologist colleagues from my corporate
training work…

..bought all the books I could find on the subject and
read them…then i took another leap of faith to invest
in doing what's called an NLP Practitioner…which is
a training that qualifies you for using NLP professionally. 

It costs serious money in my case £1600 I didn't necessarily
have…

But it catapulted my ability to get in control of myself
and become influential with people and confident with
women authentically to a totally new level. 

It also taught me where many of the dating programs
go wrong when they teach dating techniques that
are based on routines, social power tactics and
manipulation that had made me uncomfortable.

See…many people in the "seduction community" who call
themselves PUA's talk about NLP ….but what they
often do is just have a surface level understanding about
one or two tricks and they teach you how to manipulate
women with it.

It's actually far more powerful than surface tricks but it's
a set of tools that I love to use authentically.

Anyway..it's been amazing taking that last leap of faith
in investing serious money in it…because without it
I would never have been able to understand why many
of the other guys approaches didn't feel right with me
and I'd never have been able to develop my own approach
to dating success, women and attraction.

I could go on and on…how my leaps of faith have
taken me forward when if I hadn't just suspended
disbelief and my natural cynicism and not invested in
something because i wasn't 100% sure whether
it would help me i would have stayed stuck for
months and years or plodded on half confused without
direction.

So from someone who never used to invest ANY money
into their own development i have now gone to be someone
who knows that consistently investing in myself by consistently
investing in knowledge is the most important thing I can do
for myself going forward.

That's why these days I am more than willing to invest money
(serious money) in getting help from people who I know and
trust who have more expertise in a certain area that I want
to grow in. Because I've seen how those leaps of faith when
I had to suspend my disbelief have given me benefits that
I never even foresaw!

By the way…this isn't an email designed to tell you to buy my
6 Week Double Your Confidence Challenge.. or invest in
my Pimp Your Lingo Program... in fact i won't even
put a link in here…

But I just wanted to show you how important it can be
 to "suspend your disbelief" and just take those leaps of faith…
and not let your cynicism stop you from taking action and
investing in programs, books, and KNOWLEDGE.

You need to take a leap of faith even whenever I give
you an idea, or a technique I want you to try for free...

I know there's always that little voice that tells you:
"It probably won't work"…and if you're listening
to it it probably won't.

See anything can only work when you make a little leap of faith
upfront and when you suspend your disbelief…then you
give it a chance to surprise you….by working!

So that's all I wanted to tell you today.

Let me know what you think,
Stephan

PS: I forgot to say…the thing with confidence and women
obviously solved itself on the way…but I guess the fact that
I forgot to finish that bit off here in this post probably
shows you how much that's become a part of me now…